Why You Need More Than “Better”

Dec 8

Here is something to consider. “Better” isn’t actually better.

Let’s talk about a word that holds a lot of promise but often leaves us stuck: better.

“I want a better job.”
“I want to be a better communicator.”
“I want a better work-life balance.”

It sounds great on the surface—who wouldn’t want something better? But here’s the thing: better is slippery. It’s a goal that feels good enough yet remains frustratingly vague.

When you say you want “better,” I hear more than a wish. I see a part of you that’s ready to change. That’s exciting! But to make it happen, you’ll need to dig deeper.

Because creating real change isn’t just about improving your circumstances—it should also push you to become the person who can live in that change.

What Does “Better” Look and Feel Like?

Let’s break it down. If you want a “better” job, what does that really mean?

Are you the parent who finally has the flexibility to be there for school drop-offs and pickups?

Or maybe you’re the leader stepping into a role that challenges you, excites you, and reflects your full potential?

When you say you want to be a “better” communicator, what does that look like in action?

Are you the person who speaks with confidence, owning your voice and your point of view?

Or are you the one who builds trust and connection through active listening, creating deeper, more meaningful relationships?

If it’s “better” work-life balance you’re after, what does that mean for how you show up for yourself?

Are you a high achieving, high performing top contributor who’s learned to set boundaries without guilt, valuing both your career and your personal life?

Or are you someone who wakes up energized, feeling aligned with your values and fulfilled in all areas of your life?

Rearranging your circumstances alone won’t create the kind of meaningful, lasting change you’re craving. You need to reimagine the version of yourself who lives that change—and then move toward becoming that person.

Don’t Just Wish for “Better”—Claim It

The clearer you are about who you want to become, the more intentional you can be about the steps you take to get there.

So don’t stop at wishing for “better.”

Instead, ask yourself:

What does “better” look like for me?

What does it feel like to already have it?

And most importantly, who am I when I’m living that reality?

Because the change you want isn’t something that just happens to you. It’s something you claim—choice by choice, moment by moment, as you step into the version of yourself who is ready to live it.